What do the Lonely Do?

What do the lonely do at Christmas?

·      Sit up on social media and be envious of everyone’s relationships.

·      Question your worth and wonder why not you.

·      Hyper-fixate on what you can fix about yourself to make you the perfect match for someone.

I know girl, me too. We love our homegirls, but we ain’t tryna cuddle with them heifers at night. We love a good Friendsmas party, but they ain’t the only ones we wanna wear pajamas with. You wanna buy your man the five senses gifts too. & Show up to the family functions with your man, your man, your man.

But what if we changed the narrative and looked for the joy in all things?

Understand that you will experience romantic love at its fullest capacity when it’s your time. Although single, this is still a valuable time in your life that you can’t get back. This is still time that you get to focus solely on yourself, so why not give it your all so that you can present the best possible version of yourself to your person?  

Here’s a list of things I’ll be doing to get through this lonely holiday season: This sounds a lot like other lists from previous Blogmas posts…but these are my coping skills, so don’t be worried about what I got going in, and work on building your own.

1.     Recentering my focus on what’s important to me and developing a plan to execute my 2024 goals.

2.     Spending time with family.

3.     Creating a nighttime routine to help when the sadness hits (if you know, you know). You can sing Sexxy Red loud all day...but at night, be up rocking and crying yourself to sleep.

4.     Reading. Reading has always been my escape --- it helps me to calm down, eases my anxiety, and allows me to focus on something other than why I ain’t got no man!

5.     Trying to love me to my core. In essence, I need to love myself more. As much as I desire love from a partner, there are parts of me that need some work chile.  

6.     Cry. Because I can be sad about the current circumstances of my love life, but okay with knowing that this is temporary, simultaneously.

Let me just say this, it is okay if you don’t have anyone’s son to wear matching Christmas pajamas with this year sis. Be cute by yourself. Be merry by yourself. Make sure you laugh a lot and find joy in the small things. In due time, the right person for you will come along. Truthfully, I only half-believe this right now. But as I continue to speak positivity and have faith that God has designed a man meant just for me, so shall it be.

Love you much,

Latressa